Many of us yearn for a long-term, committed relationship. You may not know what milestones to expect as a relationship progresses naturally over time. Here’s what usually happens after a couple has been together for six months.
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After Six Months – What To Expect
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After six months together, you and your partner will have a solid number of memories together. You’ve watched movies together, have had meals together both out and inside of your homes many times, and likely, you’ve met at least part of each other’s families or friend groups. Maybe, you’ve gone camping together, have been on a road trip or two, or have been on other adventures with one another. You’re growing more comfortable with your partner by the day, and you’re starting to see the little quirks that you might not have seen before.
At the six-month point, you have overcome many hurdles. Evenin the healthiest relationships, there are challenges. People don’t always agree, and if they do, there are underlying issues. You have learned your strengths and weaknesses in the relationship. You see how you click, and what gets on the other person’s nerves. Some people choose to celebrate the six-month mark of their partnership in addition to their one-year anniversary, whereas others don’t. Either way, it’s okay. What matters is how your relationship functions on a day to day basis and how both of you feel in the partnership. At the six-month mark, you can take a look at your partnership, and evaluate if any factors can be improved.
You’ve probably heard the term “rebound,” which is a relationship where one or more of the partners is recovering from an ex. The longer the previous relationship lasted, the more there is to get over. If the past partner was abusive, there’s likely residual trauma. That can take some time to work through, and one thing that can help is talking about the trauma in therapy. It’s essential to address your traumatic past in individual counseling rather than in couples counseling. The reason for that is you want to focus on healing yourself. Your partner isn’t responsible for soothing your pain from previous relationships. It can be tempting to ask them to help you heal, but ultimately the emotional work is up to you. Rebound relationships are tricky. Sometimes you are ready to move on, and there are other instances where it’s too soon, and you’re still emotionally invested in the ex-partner.
If you have lingering feelings for an ex-partner despite being in a new relationship for six months, it’s most certainly something to work through. You want to make sure that you don’t hurt your current partner, and you want to make sure that you’re able to give this relationship your all.
Issues That Come Up In Six Months
Rebound relationships aside, there are a number of issues that could emerge on your radar at the six-month mark of a romantic partnership. These are some things to take inventory of:
Whether Or Not You’ve Met Their Friends and Family
One thing to take inventory of at the six-month mark of a relationship is if you’ve met your partners family and friends or not.If your partner is hiding you from their friends and family, that’s not a good sign. They should want to showyou off. They should want to introduce you to people who are significant in their life. If you haven’t met your partner’s family, that’s a red flag. Don’t squint your eyes and pretend that the flag is purple; see it for what it is and confront the issue. Of course, there are nuances to this. Maybe, your partner has cut ties with the majority of their family. If so, they should’ve explained that to you by the six-month mark, and you should have met their friends.
Additionally, pay attention to how your partner introduces you. Again, they should be proud to show you off and call you their significant other. If there are any signs that your partner is trying to pass you off as “just a friend” or keep the relationship concealed, confront them.
If You’re Truly Compatible
Is there a lingering feeling that you and your partner aren’t truly compatible? If so, it’s crucial to explore why that is and if it’s something that can be resolved. Compatibility doesn’t mean that everything about you is the same; it means that your major goals fit together and that you have a healthy connection, whatever that means for you. Disparities between you and your partner when it comes to the big things you want in life, such as having children and raising a family, are something that you likely want to crack down on at the six-month mark in a relationship. For example, if it bothers you that you’ve always wanted kids and your partner is adamant that they don’t, it’s time to have a conversation. It doesn’t mean that either one of you needs convincing or changing; it’s okay that you want to have kids, and it’s okay that your partner doesn’t. It’s just something to keep in mind if you’re in it for the long haul. If you have a dealbreaker and that dealbreaker comes up, it’s something to consider and start a conversation about at the very least.
When You Know That It’s Working
You get along with your partner. You look forward to seeing them when they get home from work so that you can reconnect with them. You have an ongoing intimate relationship with them in the bedroom. You love to embrace them or communicate in the love language of their choice. Whether that’s words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, gifts, or some quality time, you both deserve to feel loved. When you plan your future together, it’s a sign that you’re getting along, and you want to spend your life with your partner.
When You Disagree
All couples disagree from time to time. That’s unavoidable. You’re different people, and as a result, you’ll have different opinions. By no means is this a bad thing. In fact, it’s great! As long as you love each other and work together well, you don’t have to be the same.Studies showthat arguing can actually be a sign of a good partnership. What it comes down to ishowyou argue and how you resolve those disagreements. Do you both feel heard after a disagreement is over? Can you talk it through in a levelheaded manner and take a breather if you need to? Are you able to compromise? Do both of you feel respected?
If you find that you can’t work through your problems healthily, or if you feel misunderstood and frequent arguments are causing you stress, one option is to go to couples’ therapy. You may be thinking, “is it too early to go to therapy with your partner at the six-month mark?” The short answer is “no.” When you want to invest in a strong, fulfilling relationship with your partner, there’s no such thing as “too early to go to therapy.” Unless you’ve been on one or two dates with them – that may be a bit premature. Otherwise, you can absolutely go to counseling or therapy.
Couples Therapy After ASix-Month Relationship
You may be in individual therapy, and find that it’s helping you address your problems. But online couples counseling can help you figure out what’s working and not working in a relationship. When you see an online couples’ counselor, you can talk candidly about what’s happening in your relationship that’s not working. You and your partner can work on making the relationship last, and go beyond that six-month mark. Your counselor is invested in helping you figure out whether your partnership is working or not. You may not be sure if you want to proceed in a solid future with your partner. You may want to get married, but you’re not entirely certain. Therapy is a place to explore these issues.
Figuring Out If The Relationship Is For The Long Term
After six months, you know your partner fairly well. You may be confident with the progress you are making in your relationship. Many signs indicate that a relationship is going to last, but you need to sit down and think to yourself. Have some alone time without your partner, and consider how you like your life right now. Your partner isn’t responsible for your happiness; you are. Your partner can add to that joy. A healthy relationship happens with two people come together and share time. If you find that these issues of codependency are coming up, you can discuss them with your therapist, or in couples counseling.
Long Distance Relationships
If you are dating someone who lives in a different state or even another country, the milestones in the timeline of your relationship can change. You could be dating for six months, and find that you’re still getting to know each other. The honeymoon period could last longer than usual. The reason is that your moments together are spread out, and when you are with each other, you see the best sides of one another. When you see someone every day, the novelty of the connection wanes. In a long-distance relationship, you and your partner have to trust each other for it to work. If either of you is jealous of the other, it will inevitably cause friction in the relationship. If you don’t trust your partner, you might as well abandon the relationship.
That may sound harsh, but if the trust is gone, the hope of a future is as well. Another aspect of a long-distance relationship is that you can argue with your partner online or on the phone, and you two may go to bed angry. There is a lack of complete resolution to the arguments you have and is no make-up sex. There is also a lot of pressure to have a good time when you see each other because you don’t live close together. The six-month milestone looks quite different in a long-distance relationship than an in-person one. Keep that in mind if you are interested in pursuing a relationship with someone who lives far from you.